wolverine_nun ([info]wolverine_nun) wrote,
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There was an old woman who lived in a shoe

Hello! I haven't posted in ages! You all still there?

Let's see, what's happened. Well, first of all, I had the urge to post because I had to share a recent Go Fug Yourself post with you. Being a fan of both LotR and The Amazing race, this one tickled me pink.

So, anyway, back to me. I visited [info] for a weekend, um, about 3 weeks ago. Cute baby! Cannot read or write yet. Older one can, though, the one with the multiple personalities. Fascinating stuff. Met some old and new SCA people. Scored book (on long loan) on maths in needlework. Delivered Africa puzzle. We are currently working on a USA one. So far I am better than K, but it's just a matter of time. Neither of us is very good. "Is that where Ohio is? Which way up does Illinois go?" etc.

When I left, K was ill with headaches and throwing up. P was ill by Saturday night (of course, A gobbing on his phone so badly it finally required a hairdryer to resume functioning means I operated in radio silence, as it were, for most of my stay away and was unaware of medical developments). By Sunday night, when I was home, A was ill and I was ill by Monday morning. This was a Bad Bug. I seriously hope I didn't bring it to you, schedule5. I was really ill with a temperature and the like by Tuesday. I still had to lecture and drive K to the therapist and other unavoidable stuff, though, which was pretty grotty. Anyway, illness in all directions, A needed antibiotics by the end of the week, I needed antibiotics and cortisone the next week when I had a nasty relapse. P seems better now but it took him 3 weeks. Bad Bug. Quite nasty.

Voted. I had a defective ballot paper: no Soccer Party. Had to pencil them in. Still have smudged fingernail.

Best news: I have new shoes!! Wheeee! I understand that there are people who wear shoes to match their outfits. Odd. I wear one pair of summer sandals, one pair of winter closed shoes, one pair of takkies for gym. I have a pair of smart sandals bought for my masters graduation (8 years ago) and a pair of smart ankle boots which hurt my feet. Oh, I suppose there are some speciality footwear, like my gillies and the still marvelous boots AHS bought me one distant misty day, but basically there're the summer shoes and the winter shoes. I used to wear takkies in winter, but in 2005 I bought slip on shoes because I had this really huge belly for some reason. They are servicable but ugly. I have wanted to replace them for a while, although there was that recurrence of the enormous belly. This year, feeling 4 years is not too short a time to wait between winter shoe purchases, I bought a new pair! They are ankle boots! With a wedge heel! And a zip! And they're Green Cross! And they are totally delightful! They were also totally expensive and will have to do for several years. Fortunately my ingrained sense of Buying Unnecessary Shoes is Sinful (where did that come from?) will not allow me to buy a new pair till this pair falls apart.

So, let's see, what else is there. The girls are sharing a room now. They are together in the small room next to the lounge. A bed, a cot and 2 chests of drawers pretty much fills the room. The other room is the play room, also spare room if someone stays over. K is so much happier. I don't know whether it is coincidence, but twice (twice!) in the last week she has managed to play all by herself! She had a tea party at the top of the jungle gym with a damp tea set and a bunch of teddies for, like, half an hour! Alone! Am I getting my amazement across here? I'd dearly love to approximate confluence's self-described "feral upbringing" as it would give me more time to read books (which is really my life's mission) but K won't let me. She is happy going to bed now, even takes herself to bed. Some nights, if A is still awake when K goes to bed, we have to deal with an hour of giggling and chortling and tossing teddies to and fro, but it still involves happiness rather than misery, which is an improvement. So: (potential) parents contemplating two children and thinking you don't have enough rooms in your house: sometimes their own rooms make them deeply unhappy. Go figure.

Visited my sister for a long weekend. A got to see the bunnies and the chickens and the roosters and the 8 (eight) dogs. She got to touch new laid eggs which thrilled her. She loved the kiewiets. We are now the proud (?) owners of a small soccer ball with flags of the world on (no Africa, of course. Where's Africa?) which play their national anthems when pressed. Kinda cool. Kinda tiring. Really quite loud. Anyway, want to hear the national anthems of Japan? Saudi Arabia? Argentina? Portugal? come and visit our musical soccer ball.

Right! It's Tuesday, so a research day. Today I reread Chapter 7 of my student's thesis and say wise things about it. I also have a committee meeting at lunchtime which is a drag. It's K's second last visit to Katie today as well, so that chops the end off my day. Better get started. Term ends next Wednesday. Thereafter I have about a week to finish a skeletal paper before final submission. This while marking a heap of test scripts. I shall bend time.

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[info]extemporanea

May 12 2009, 07:24:24 UTC 3 years ago

Still here, and happy to see you back, although incredibly nasty 'flu experience duly noted with concern. My sister just had it, and she's been out for two weeks and looks like a piece of chewed string.

My extensive experience with Green Cross winter boots entails wearing them daily for about four years,having the innersole replaced and then wearing them for another two, so as far as I'm concerned they come under the heading of "justifiably expensive". I need to go and get another pair myself, actually, mine have just reached the end of their six-year allotted lifespan.

Interesting that K is happier in the same room as A - possibly she felt that it was her room and she'd been somehow displaced?

[info]wolverine_nun

May 12 2009, 08:25:20 UTC 3 years ago

She gets desperately lonely. She hated sleeping alone and wanted one of us in her room until she fell asleep (which we didn't do, resulting in great misery). She'd creep out of bed to climb in with us. We even found her asleep on the passage floor a few times, having crept out of bed as far as the main passage and then lain down there. She generally hates playing alone and wants a parent to play with her all the time. She didn't even like going into her room alone to fetch something, always wanting company. The joint room seems to be allaying that sense of loneliness with knock-on effects for playing. Yay!

Green Cross ftw!

Anonymous

May 12 2009, 07:46:02 UTC 3 years ago

My sisters and I shared a room for years. Even when we got our own rooms, we would 'sleepover' for the weekend - all in one room.

Nantalith

[info]wolverine_nun

May 12 2009, 08:29:00 UTC 3 years ago

I shared a room with first my sister then my younger brother until I was about 12 or so. I certainly appreciated having my own room after that, but presumably before that age it's good to share? Anyway, we've had to chuck away the "good parents provide their children with their own rooms" rubbish and assume the "good parents decrease their children's misery" notion. Who knew those would be in conflict?

[info]aryanhwy

May 12 2009, 08:51:08 UTC 3 years ago

My niece (2) and nephew (4) still share a room, and they often spend about an hour talking to each other at night before bed (at least they did when they were visiting here, and Andrea assures me it was normal). At least they're out of the way and relatively quiet, and I'm sure it must contribute positively to sibling relationships.

I never shared a room with my sister, and have always deeply cherished having my own room. In fact, one of the scarier parts about getting married was sharing my bedroom with someone, to no longer have a place that I could go and shut the doors and not let anyone in if I didn't want to (I don't really feel I can lock my husband out of his bedroom except in very extreme cases). Thankfully the need/desire to do so hasn't arisen, but sometimes I do wonder if perhaps it wouldn't have been a bad thing to have had to share a room with someone at some point before I turned 22.

[info]wolverine_nun

May 12 2009, 09:01:43 UTC 3 years ago

Yeah, retiring to the bathroom ostensibly to powder one's nose but really to have a good cry/muttered rant/scowling session is really the only option. Locking bedroom doors is a bit extreme.

[info]kadekraan

May 12 2009, 10:06:50 UTC 3 years ago

Well, you wouldn't really have to lock the door, unless the other person has impulse control problems and can't help coming into the room. In theory, you should just be able to say "I need some time alone so I'm going to the bedroom - please don't disturb me for an hour (or whatever)." (This will not work on children I suppose, but it should work on adults.) Or just have a rule that when you're in the bedroom with the door closed you don't want to be disturbed. However, I admit it can be challenging when you're sharing a place with your significant other to cordon off your own space. At least until you're very wealthy and have your own wings of the mansion.

[info]aryanhwy

May 12 2009, 20:28:04 UTC 3 years ago

you should just be able to say "I need some time alone so I'm going to the bedroom - please don't disturb me for an hour (or whatever)."

I guess what bothers me about this is who gets dibs on the bedroom as safe haven? I mean, if the two of you are fighting, both are probably upset, so is it whoever gets to the bedroom first that gets to sulk there, and the other person gets the livingroom couch?

I've been lucky so far in that there's always a good long soak in the bathtub in times like these.

[info]egadfly

May 12 2009, 19:53:04 UTC 3 years ago

I am also a Person of Few Shoes. I think this is a sign of good moral character. It may simply indicate habituation to relative poverty, or possibly laziness, but I prefer the moral character theory.

My brother and I shared a room for at least the first few years of my life. I don't remember exactly how long. Overall it was a good thing.

Anonymous

May 13 2009, 06:45:34 UTC 3 years ago

Official SA nephews recently started sharing a room and the oldest is much happier--and gets on much better with is brother now, too, apparently. Interesting.

Glad you're back, sorry to hear about the awful bug. Good luck with that time bending thing, pls pass along usertips kthx.
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